• Susie Aguilar

Give Yourself Grace And Permission To Pause

Life is full of a lot of responsibilities, commitments, and obligations. If you constantly find yourself exhausted, feeling as if you are always trying to catch up or have a sense of guilt about taking a break, then today’s episode is for you.

Rather than let guilt consume us, it’s time to stop working towards an invisible “badge of honor” and instead give ourselves grace and permission to pause. I believe we spend way too much time on trying to reach a destination, instead of enjoying the journey. When we do this, we grind ourselves to a point of exhaustion that can be hard to recover from. Let’s learn to honor ourselves.

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All My Love,

Susie Q

~ Prefer reading? Below is the full show transcript ~

Do you run yourself ragged, find yourself exhausted and just trying to be here, here and there and everywhere to help everyone do all the things, things. And then you're just plain old exhausted if you're nodding your head, yes, then today today's episode is one you need to tune into. I'm chatting about how to give yourself grace and permission to pause before.

All right, before I jump into today's episode and share my thoughts on this topic with you. I want to share this week's review of the week from VCastro515, who says that she's an embracing fear work in progress. And her review says:

I'm an embracing fear work in progress. I've been blessed to have Susie Q as a lifelong mentor of mine, listening to her, share her stories and empowering us to embrace the unknown is awe inspiring. Life is a scary place. Give ourselves grace is an everyday effort that is so easily forgotten. Thank you for everything you're doing Susie.

Thanks, VI. I love that you reached out and that you shared how this has been helping you in your own life and your own career as well. I'm grateful that you left this review and I just want to encourage you ladies, that if you're tuning into this show and you are enjoying the nuggets that I've been sharing with you, please leave me a review because what this does is it helps other women see the show because it helps us rank higher and pop up in searches because you are talking about the things that you are enjoying. So if you have a moment and you can go and leave me an iTunes review, I would really appreciate it.

So are we ready to talk about grace? That's why I had to share this quote because I haven't done a quote in a little bit here and I'm sorry, not a quote. I haven't done a review in a little while here and this one, she talked about grace and I thought what perfect timing, as you all know, I've shared with you, that we recently did a family road trip. And when you go on vacation, you come back home, your home, your life, everything feels out of order. Well, on top of that, we've been back for a little bit, almost good to being settled and back to normal. We're pretty close.

However, let me give you an example. We just had this past weekend, we had a little, um, get together. We did some things this weekend as a family, beautiful weekend, ready for the week to start. And I got food poisoning. Yeah, food poisoning sucks. First of all, not anything nice. Right? But then I was up all hours of the night, running back and forth to the bathroom. Couldn't lay down because I was afraid of what would happen by laying flat. Right? So I was awake most of the night sitting down and watching TV or in the restroom. And that's no fun, but I was exhausted. And this was, you know, in the middle of the night, Sunday night to early Monday morning, it was terrible. And I felt like a hot mess.

Well, you know, a lot of times I think what happens when we are faced with all the responsibility in our life and our career, we tend to have this guilt take over us. And we feel all the responsibility for all the things that we do. All the people that we serve and we push and keep going forward, no matter what. And as much as that is something that can be ingrained in us. I also believe it's extraordinarily important for us to recognize that we have to give our own selves grace and permission to pause.

And I say that using this example of me getting sick, because today's show is going to air a little bit later than usual, it's going to not be the perfectly edited episode. And you're going to hear all the random noises or the things that might be going on in the background, because I gave myself grace when I wasn't feeling well, I decided I needed to take a sick day. I was just that miserable and just realized that I needed to take care of myself.

I was at this point of exhaustion, but I didn't want to let anyone down. I didn't want to, you know, not meet up with my obligations, but at the same time, I recognized that my body was yelling for rest. My body was yelling for sleep because I was not getting any that night obviously. And what that equated to was certain things were just going to have to be delayed or they just simply weren't going to happen.

And I had to be okay with that. I'm not going to say it was super easy to make that decision. But once I recognize that, “Hey, you know what, I need to do this for me because if I don't rest, then number one, I'm not going to produce the same way as I normally would when I'm feeling well. And number two, I'm just going to burn myself out even more.” And if anything makes the situation worse, why would we do that? Why do we do that to ourselves? I mean, I'm guessing if you're listening to this episode, you're probably thinking the same thing I am. You know, it's so hard to let go of the expectations that everyone else has for us. Hey, you know, do this, do that help, you know, help me do this thing. Or can you handle that? You know what?

That is a perfect trap for us to feel guilt because we want to help everyone. We want to do all the things. And I appreciate that. And I value that and I am guilty of always pushing harder for what everyone else needs. And as I get older, and as I learned things in my own life. I recognize that we can't always be go, go, go, go, go, and not ever stopping and pausing to take care of ourselves and to give ourselves grace and not say, Oh, well, you know, everything I do always has to be perfect or can't have any errors or can't be late, or can't be this, that whatever. And we push ourselves to a point where either we are even more exhausted than we ever imagined, we beat ourselves up over it. And at the end of the day, we are just hurting ourselves.

So my goal today is just to remind you, this is simply my reminder that you are deserving of pressing that pause button, no matter what challenge is ahead of you, no matter what things you're facing in your life, you deserve a break too. You need to give yourself a break. I in fact would push that more often than not. You need to press pause because it gives you an opportunity to step away, to reflect. And oftentimes that sparks creativity. It gives you a chance to see things a little bit differently. And quite frankly, it gives you a chance to just arrest. That's what we need a lot of times, we need to simply just rest. And we don't allow ourselves to do that. In today's episode, I want to encourage you to simply rest, take care of yourselves. My friends, I know it's not easy.

We feel like we always have to be on the go. We get this, you know, badge of honor for accomplishing 50 things in one day. But really the end game is that the end goal is to simply check off a box here and there. And woohoo that's what entitles us to success?

Absolutely not!

I can attest to that for you. I can let you know that that is not in fact reality. And that instead of constantly being on the go and not allowing ourselves some space, we are just doing ourselves a disservice. And my desire is to help you or recognize that and see that you do not always have to be 24/7 hustling and grinding and doing all the things, serving everyone constantly and forgetting about yourself. We need to put ourselves as a priority and we need to give ourselves grace. Nothing's going to be perfect. And in fact, I don't believe perfection is reality. I don't think that exists. And I don't think that's a goal we should be trying to attain. So today my friends, I want to encourage you to give yourself grace. And this is your permission slip to learn how to press pause.

The last thing I want to leave you with is this quote that I came across from Pinterest. And I thought it was a perfect fit for today's show. And it's by Chelsea Tate. And she wrote:

Grace will take you places hustling can't

I'm going to repeat that. “Grace will take you places hustling can't”. I, again, want to emphasize that you can sit there and grind away all day long, all week long, all month long, but are you truly enjoying the moments in the journey? It's not just about that destination. It's about the process. It's about the journey. It's about the things you experience along the way. And if you're not allowing yourself the opportunity to press pause and to have grace with everything that's going on around you or for you, then you are going to miss all those important moments and things are just going to slip away.

And the one thing that will slip away is your health. I don't want that to be the case for you. So I just want to remind you to please give yourself grace. And when you are faced with situations, recognize what you need to do, how you can simplify it, take it easy and give yourself permission to pause. Let's let go of perfection ladies. I know it's hard because I am a perfectionist too, or I tend to be. I'm working on it and I want to help you on that journey.

The last thing I wanted to mention is that if you are wanting to find a space to come and hang out, no judgment, just a group of ladies who are in a similar boat as you. And we just want to hang out. We want to create friendships. We want to have a space full of positivity, and we can chat strategy.

We can chat leadership and you know, we talk all things fear in there. Well, then I would love for you to come and hang out in my face in my Facebook group that she embraces fear Facebook group. If you want to come hang out with us, I will drop a link in the show notes, but I just want to let you know that this is a no judgment zone and it's really a space for us to grow together.

I'm going to be dropping some awesome webinars starting next month. So stay tuned because I'll be announcing the details pretty soon here, but I want to be able to create this space where we have community and connection together, and we get to learn more together and I'll share more tips and strategies with you outside of the podcast. And this is where we can do that. So if you head on over to Facebook search, She Embraces FEAR movement. You can come and find us there, and I would love to hang out with you. So thanks again for tuning in. I'm grateful that you're here. I'm your host, Susie Q signing off.

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