Feeling Scared? Learn To Push Past Your Comfort Zone
Updated: Jun 23, 2020
Doing things even when we feel scared, uncertain, and uncomfortable is my secret ingredient to phenomenal growth. It’s on the other side of pain and pushing through discomfort where we grow. In today’s show, I’m giving you a handful of ways you can learn to do things even when you don’t feel ready and face challenges head on.
The truth is, behind many successful people, they normally share stories of struggles to triumph, along with the lessons they learned along the way. With those bumps in the road, we learn how to shift and pivot. Today’s message is to push you out of that warm bubble you’ve been cozy in and get you to experience massive growth in your life and career. I’m excited to mentor you along the way!
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Hey friends, in this episode, we are talking all things, comfort zone! You know, that warm and fuzzy place we like to cradle ourselves in. We're going to talk about how we push past our comfort zone. And in my own terms, I like to help you create a discomfort zone. So let's hop into the show and get you moving forward. Okay?
All right. My lovely ladies. I have to disclaimer first and let you know that my sidekick Wonka of course, is here with me. You know, that she makes her appearance known very well in different episodes. So you might hear her little paws prancing around here, which is perfectly fine, right? We're all living this at home life. And I'm guessing you probably are hearing a pitter patter in your own home of either doggies walking around or the kiddos running around. Today, we are talking about comfort zones. It's one of my favorite topics, because I think that when we get uncomfortable, it's a beautiful avenue for us to grow.
It can be painful on the other side of that pain. While working through those challenges and discomfort, we are able to grow to such different levels. I think it's actually necessary to get really uncomfortable depending on what we're working towards. What I want to do is let you know that if you find yourself in a place that you have been hitting a wall and you are feeling stuck, you are not alone. If you have been wanting to pivot, but you're just like, oh my goodness, I don't know what to do. Or I've been sitting in this feeling for so long that I'm not sure how to make a change. I hear you. I was exactly in your shoes. And there's something magical about having clarity and about knowing exactly what direction you want to work towards. It doesn't mean we know every single step of the way because things in life change, right?
We move directions, but it gives us a path to start following. And when we don't know what path we're headed in, it could feel frustrating. I want to be able to let you know that I offer strategy sessions, where we hop on a quick phone call for15 minutes. You let me know what your top goal is and we see if working together would be a great option or not. Sometimes all you're looking for is resources and someone to guide you and point you in that direction. Or maybe you need a master at breaking down your goals and developing a roadmap. Those are the things that I love to do. And I don't want you to feel like you have to do that all by yourself because I know how challenging and frustrating it can feel to not sense that you're making any progress.
I just wanted to let you know that you're not alone. I do offer these free sessions for us to see if we're a good fit. At the very least, it's a great way for us to connect because I love hearing from you and being able to chat. If you would like to set up your appointment with me, lets move forward. I linked it in the show notes.
I also want to share with you the review of the week and this five star review from Veronica Corea is called, soothing and inspiring, and she says,
"Just an average Wednesday. Then I stumbled across Susie's podcast. Thanks for giving me that extra push to get me through the rest of the week. You're funny antidotes, keep me giggling, your quotes, keep my mind occupied and my heart full. Thanks Susie!
Veronica, I just want to first and foremost say thank you. Of course, as I'm recording your review, the motorcycle group decides to go and make all sorts of noises. So hopefully I've got you all giggling in the background there of real life, right? I hope that you all are getting a laugh, just like I am. Veronica, I just want to say thank you again for your review. I really hope that at the very least, each one of you is walking away with a tangible tip. I hope that I can make you smile. And I hope that I inspire you to take some action in your life, no matter what it is that you're working towards.
Just take one baby step. I always try to highlight the silver lining and I hope that that is something that you're sensing and seeing. I really appreciate when you take the time to be able to share your reviews with me and let me know how I'm serving you and what else I can do to serve you. It is really valuable to me. And I want to know ifI I'm giving you a message that matters to you. So again, thank you. And if you all feel inspired to leave me a rating and review on iTunes, I would be deeply grateful if you could do that for me.
Are we ready to talk about discomfort zones? Because like I said, I'm a master at that. I love to push you outside of your comfort zone since I believe that we need to be pushed out of our comfort zone to be able to grow.
That's my strategy and I'm sticking with it. I really do believe in it. If you think about people that share their stories and they talk about, how they've evolved in their life, more often than not they have been confronted with a challenging situation and overcome that. And out of them overcoming that hurdle, they have expanded and grown in ways that they could have never imagined.
That speaks absolutely true for my personal story. If you've heard my previous episodes where I talked to you about my journey, then you'll know that's how I have grown in my life, my career, as a woman, and as a mother. So I challenge you to really think about what those discomfort zones are for you and start getting comfortable with getting uncomfortable. It's okay. And quite frankly, right now, with everything that's going on in the world; from the pandemic situation to this outcry (rightfully so), we need to be active and work together to make change.
Everything happening surrounding George Floyd and Minneapolis, is just not tolerable. And as people, we need to learn how to unite together, we need to learn how to step out of our comfort zones. We need to learn how to have difficult conversations. That's why I say that even though it might be painful, even though it might be difficult, it's so important to recognize the value behind getting uncomfortable. And that's why I've focused this topic on it. I almost didn't show up for the show twice this week. If you tuned into Wednesday's show, I let you know how heavy on my heart, everything has been weighing on me lately. And in specifically the George Floyd murder, and it just pains me. It hurts my heart. And I wasn't sure that I could show up and be the person that I want to be when I show up here for you.
I wanted to be sure that the message I'm sharing with you is one of value with that in mind. That's why I picked talking about discomfort because everything I believe that we're seeing and hearing whether it's, the news or social media or people that maybe you're communicating with directly and your circle of influence, I hope that there's a lot of questions being raised. I hope you're having an open mind, but what we're seeing is this need to change. Well, the only way we're going to change and move forward is through discomfort, is to have those hard conversations, is to take action every single day and do one small thing. It doesn't have to be this insurmountable thing that we do every day, but we need to take action and baby steps. And that's why getting outside of our comfort zone is so critical.
One of the things that you hear a lot of chatter about when it comes to anything that we're working towards, it could be personal, professional, or global. We're, dealing with a lot of global things right now, aren't we? It's my belief that we really need to be ready to do things even when we don't feel ready. Because I imagine that many people who have created movements in the past and who have advocated for different things. People who have had success in their life, in their business, they didn't know what they were getting themselves into. They had no idea what was on the other side of "success". They didn't have a perfectly built roadmap that told them, okay, you know, arrive at point A and this will happen or arrive at point B and this will happen. No, my friends, that's definitely not the case. It doesn't work like that. We have to step into that area of discomfort and do it. Even when we don't feel ready.
I like to listen to Angie Lee. And she always says, ready is a lie. I wholeheartedly agree with that. Ready is a lie because what ends up happening is we have to just start testing. We just have to start trying. It's not going to be perfect. There's no one way, one access. That's the only way to get it done. No, it doesn't work like that. We have to be willing to push through that discomfort and say, you know what? I don't know what's on the other side of this, but I'm willing to find out, I'm willing to learn as I go. You know, one of the famous hearing or famous sayings that I hear is, take the leap and build your wings on the way down. Well, that's exactly what I mean. When I say you have to develop a discomfort zone, you have to do things even when you don't know all the answers when you don't have a perfectly crafted plan every time. Because I let me tell you something, I am a very strategic and analytical person, but even when you have the most perfectly designed plan and strategy, it will not always pan out.
You will always have to pivot, things will come up that you never anticipated. It's just the reality of it. It's just the reality of situations change. I just want to remind you that it's okay to do things. Number one, when you're scared, because that fear is not going to go away on its own until you start to step into it. So we can step into it, feeling scared and uncertain, and we can do it confidently. And we just start taking little steps at a time. What I want to leave you with today is just a couple suggestions on how to handle and start to be open to the idea of creating these zones of discomfort that I'm talking about. Number one, like I said earlier, just start doing things. Even when you don't feel ready, it's okay. It's okay to not feel ready because even the most successful people in this entire world didn't have all the answers.
No one has all the answers. We have to figure this out as we go. So don't feel confined to, "Oh, I'm not ready". Or I need to, you know, check off 50 things from my, the "I know all this stuff list". No, no, no, no, no. I know that we sometimes we have that perfectionist way because my friends I'm raising my hand with you. I too have that tendency. But the reality is that we cannot account for every single thing, a hundred percent of the time. So do things when you don't feel ready, when you feel uncomfortable, that's okay, because you're going to learn and grow through that. The next thing is, I want you to start having some difficult conversations. How do you do that? We ask questions, whether it's advocating for something, whether it's trying to transition in a career, whatever that path looks like, that you're trying to work towards.
The only way you're going to learn is by asking questions, surround yourself with people who have been there or are a couple steps ahead of you and ask them, how did you get from point A to point B? What lessons learned can you share with me, so I don't make the same mistakes you did, or I don't have the same challenges that you experienced along the way. Maybe there's a shortcut that you can share with me, right? Because if we can do things smarter, not harder, let's do that. But at the same time, we have to bump our head along the way too, because that is a lesson. I don't see it as failure. I don't see it as, Oh my gosh, it ruins everything. I see those bumps in the road and those lumps on our head as opportunities for growth opportunities to say, okay, well now I know not to go that route.
And the next time something like this happens, I'm not going to use that strategy. I'm going to try something different. And maybe because I reached out to someone they could be a mentor to me. They shared with me "Oh, hey, you know, try this method". And maybe it'll prove to work well for you. That's how we grow. We learn. And then we connect with people. So I really want you to be an advocate for connecting with people that are a couple steps ahead of you that you want start working in that direction. I think that is a very beneficial way for us to start to understand how to lay out our own plan on whatever it is that we're working and advocating for.
And with all that said, in order for us to be able to apply those ideas, we have to be open and willing to learn. We sometimes have a hard time with feeling like we have all the answers or that we need to know all the answers. But part of the beauty is the journey in getting there and the people you connect with and then learning things that on your own, you would have never been open to seeing or hearing you would have never, been privy enough to say, "Oh my gosh, I didn't know that there's three options available to me instead of the one that I only knew about." But you have to be willing and open to receiving new information, because if we're not, then we're just going to be closed off. And it's not gonna matter. Someone can give you a mine of gold and have all this treasure in it. But if you have no idea that that's what it is because you're not open to it, then it will not serve you. And you'll never realize that itI was in front of you. The whole time. Part of this process for us is to have an open mind when we're having a difficult conversation or we're thinking of pivoting, being flexible and being willing to see things from a different perspective and to learn something that you may not have known otherwise.
And to wrap that all up together, you know, something that I repeat constantly to you, and I hope that this has been benefiting you and helping you. Don't just take this information that I share with you and then say, "Oh, okay. That sounds good. Fantastic. Thanks for, for telling me that." And then it goes in one ear and comes out the other. Now it's time for you to implement, take one action.
Today. As soon as you finish listening to the episode, I want you to pull out a piece of paper. If you're a note,and pen kind of person, or if you're into a digital document, fantastic, whatever, you know, works for you best. What I want you to do is write it down. Okay. This is the thing I want to work towards now, who can I go ask questions to? Who can I have a difficult conversation with? And what is something that ordinarily I wouldn't try to do, but I'm gonna push myself out of my comfort zone. Pick one thing, pick ONE. I'm not telling you, you have to do every single one. I'm just saying that we need to start somewhere. We need to pick one of those things and start somewhere. Cause I'm going to be very honest with you. I am currently in a state of huge discomfort in my personal growth and in my business because I'm for the first time doing a training session in Spanish, which I absolutely love.
I'm fluent in English and Spanish, but I've never done a full training session in Spanish. I was actually asked to do this a couple months ago, which I'm excited about. However, I was planning on being scheduled for the end of June, Then, just this morning, I found out that they want to move up my date to next week and I'm freaking out. I'm like, Oh my God, can I pull this off? I have to get all my materials. I have to get everything translated. I have to make sure that it makes sense, in Spanish the same way it does in English and I'm freaking out. But guess what beyond number one, that I've never done it in Spanish before I talk about leadership all the time, but I've not presented in Spanish for this long. So that's already out of my comfort zone, but now I'm considering accelerating my schedule to be flexible for the needs of the organization I'm doing it for!
That's two uncomfortable positions to be in, right? That's two spots that make me nervous, but at the end of the day, I think it's perfect timing with everything that's going on in the world is that we are learning. At least I hope that we're learning how change is eminent and being flexible is the key strategy and with all this we have to learn how to be flexible. We have to learn that, you know what, things happen? Things change. Life is not perfectly planned from now till the end of next week. Things are going to shift. Well, this is a perfect example where I'm not only asking you to recognize how you can grow through your discomfort. But I am a woman who I practice what I preach and I am committing to pushing myself out of my comfort zone by doing this presentation in Spanish. AND I'm also escalating or increasing my timeline by a whole lot.
And that makes me really nervous. But at the end of the day, my slides may not be perfect. The words that come out of my mouth, I will probably fumble and trip over. At the end of the day, all that matters is the women that I'm going to impact that day. The women who I'm going to share a message with them that I believe is very time sensitive in a world in crisis. Right now we are in crisis. And all I want to be able to do is support those women and show them how as business owners, they can be supportive, compassionate and astounding leaders in their own organizations. That's all that matters. They don't care if a slide is mis-typed and if they do well, I'm sorry. Disclaimer, I rushed to do it right. It will not be perfect. I don't expect it to be perfect, but it's not about me.
It has absolutely nothing to do with me. It has everything to do with how I serve them and how I show up for them. I'm going to show up with all heart and compassion, and that is all that matters at the end of the day. And I just want to reassure you of that. No matter how uncomfortable you are, no matter how things feel for you in the moment, it's, it's not about perfection. It's about who you're serving about the value that you and the others that you impact are going to benefit from whatever it is that you're working towards. And to be quite honest, a lot of times we need to start with us. We need that internal reflection of loving ourselves and understanding what our needs are before we could ever impact or help anyone else be on that. And that's okay.
And that's necessary. I believe that we have to focus on that. And I just want to reassure you of that because I know it's nerve wracking. I know that it's scary, but you're not in this alone. We're all in this together. We're all wanting to be impactful in a positive way. At least that's in my heart. That's what I want to believe that the majority of us are here to do good things. And the only way that's going to happen is if each one of us takes one step forward, even when it feels uncomfortable, even when we feel scared, because fear is a liar, my friends, and, you know, I say that all the time, fear is a liar. So I hope that this message inspires you today to take one baby step, just take one baby step. I plead that you start somewhere.
I love you all. I hope that this message is resonating for you. I want to let you know that I'm thinking about you as we're all faced with a lot of challenges right now, and a lot of discomfort, but we're in this together. We stand United in moving forward and making a positive impact in this world. And I'm just here to be a light in that journey. I look forward to hearing from you and I can't wait for next week to wrap up the goal setting series that we had dove into the last couple of weeks, because I do want to make sure that I give you all the steps that you need in order to work towards your vision and achieve the goals that you're working towards. Thanks for tuning in my friends. I'm your host, Susie Q and my cohost Wonka signing off!
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