Frozen In Analysis Paralysis? The #1 Way To Get Unstuck!
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~ Prefer reading? Below is the full show transcript ~
Hey ladies, it's almost the weekend. Who's ready for a little bit of relaxation? I know I totally am. Today's episode, I want to talk about how sometimes we are focused on a goal, but we get stuck in that inaction. Can you relate what I'm talking about here? I want to help you learn how to be consistent and to just keep taking risks, because guess what? That little friend of ours, analysis paralysis is really not helping. And today, I just want to give you a couple perspectives to think of if you find yourself stuck there.
Yes, ladies, I totally went there ANALYSIS PARALYSIS! Who else is shaking their head, waving their hands in the air going, Oh my gosh. Yes. I get stuck in that perfection. I get stuck in all the decisions, no matter how big or small, because we just want to do the right thing?
Isn't that the truth that we just want to choose what's right? What's gonna work perfectly for us. Yes. I hear you because I am a recovering perfectionist person. And as an analyst, I naturally dive and get stuck in analysis paralysis. Today, my goal is to hopefully help you with a couple ways to see this a little bit differently and help you loosen those reins. Just a touch, because I know that it can be hard and we struggle with it. I'm going to hopefully help you with getting your analysis paralysis under control a little bit better and letting go just a bit.
The first thing I want to share with you is whenever we're faced with a decision, we need to really get a better understanding. If this is a huge decision, right? Something big versus a small, more insignificant or not so important decision.
Let me give you an example. Let's say we have to decide where we're going to go to dinner. Probably not such a big deal, right? Like that's not doomsday type of decision. That's going to shift the way the world works around us. However, full disclaimer. I am in California and we just found out that again, our restaurants are being closed. And so maybe it is a bigger decision in light of what's happening in the world, around us at this point. But in most cases, right where we're gonna go have dinner or pickup or grab at the grocery store, probably not the end of the world for us.
However, let's flip that to, we are needing to make a decision about potentially shifting in our career. We're looking at a new career path. Now that's a lot bigger decisions. So that requires a little bit more thought and clarity in the decision process. Absolutely. So the first thing we want to do is evaluate how big and important is this decision. Is it a big or a small thing? Right?
And then the second part of that is that we need to think of our choices in terms of the longterm goals. So now I have this decision in front of me, how does this help me with that vision? I have a year from now two years from now, several years from now. If it's insignificant, if it's a small thing, then more than likely it's not going to impact that. Versus if I'm in a pivot in my career and I want to know that in one year I'm debt free. Or in three years, I can travel to my other home and I want to purchase multiple homes. Well, what direction I go in my career would definitely affect that trajectory.
Wouldn't it? So that's the thing that we want to keep in mind is at what point does that decision affect our bigger longterm goals and the things that we're working towards? So let's just use a silly example. If I choose the wrong paint color for my office, probably not the end of the world, right. But if I buy the wrong house and it's just not a good fit, whether it be financially or the community that I'm in, the state that I'm in, right. What if I want to relocate, that's going to be a lot bigger impact to me. So go and grab that pretty yellow or bold vibrant purple that you want to get on the walls and just slap the paint on woman! It's okay to just go with our gut and our instinct, which probably should be one of my other tips because sometimes we just know. So there you go, you've got a bonus tip right now.
If you sense something is completely right or completely wrong, even if you feel a little bit nervous about it and it makes you uncertain in a different way, that's okay, that's intuition. And if you just sense it and it feels right, your gut usually knows the best choice, go for it! Go for it, my friends. I don't want to be the ones who give you permission, but sometimes you need to hear someone else saying that it's okay, that it's acceptable. Well, here's your permission slip. And now you use that permission slip for yourself and now go help a friend too. Okay? Because I know the struggle can really feel overwhelming.
Then the other thing I think about is what are the pros and cons, right? We kind of talked about that here in these couple examples, but what are the pros and cons of the decisions? Especially in the case that this is a big shift in your life, then we do need to take a little bit more time to consider our options.
And if you tuned in last week, I did share with you my tip on how you can evaluate your pros and cons. So go tune into that episode and you can learn one of my very simple tactics that I use to assess things in my life and outweigh the good and the bad things that may happen in the process.
What I want to do next is I want to be able to share with you this week's review of the week before I give you the last few tips here. This five star review is titled so inspiring, and it is by Kristin at pink clay social. And she says:
"Love this podcast. So inspiring and motivating to really get out of my own way and stop letting fear stop me. Thank you."
I am very happy to hear that, Kristen, thank you for tuning in and thank you for your great feedback. It is really hard, right? That we are faced with fear and then we let it stop us in our tracks. Just like I'm talking about in today's episode about analysis paralysis that need for perfection that need to find other ways and reasons to do things or not do things keeps us stuck. And then we are getting in our own way.
We're making up excuses for ourselves. Well, that's a bummer. We shouldn't allow that to happen, right? That's what I want to offer to you is that when you tune into this show, you're going to hopefully get little nuggets here and there that are going to help you. And just like Kristin said, my goal is to inspire and motivate you and help not letting fear stop you. So I hope that it's been serving you. And if it has, please, I would love to hear from you, leave me an iTunes review or send me a screenshot of the episode that you're listening in.
And let me know what takeaways you had. I would love to hear from you. You can share with me on all the different social media platforms. I always link them in the show notes.
Are you ready for the rest of these tips, ladies, I've got the rest of these here for you.
Now, this one is one that I personally struggle with quite a bit. All right, friends, it's time for you to raise your hands. If you hang around here and you're a perfectionist, just like I am, who else struggles with this? It's a battle. Isn't it? Because we just want everything to be perfect or into all the nitty gritty details. And it just stops us in our tracks. So as hard as this may be, as much as you may struggle with it, we need to stop seeking perfection. And you know why? Because it does not exist.
Perfection just doesn't exist. We evolve and we grow and we learn through all those little bumps in the road that we come across all the times that we hit a dead end and we're like, Oh, now what? Guess what that is doing for you? That is creating an opportunity for you to see things from a different perspective and to learn from it. And when we have those moments of, oops, I had a typo... Guess what I like to call that? Being human.
And one of my friends and I, we always talk about how we're just being human and being human is the reality for all of us. We're bound to have little hiccups and missteps along the way, but the beauty is that we learn from them. And then you double down on never doing that again. I guarantee it once something happens, you double down on not ever letting that happen again, we learn from those lessons.
The way I was thinking about this is that just imagine if Steve jobs had never developed the iPhone? Do we think that in one sitting, he sat there and was like, I'm going to develop this device that you can virtually have access to data from all over the world and be able to communicate, from one side of the world, to the other. And in one sitting, he just sat there and figured it out and it was perfect. Absolutely not my friends! And I know, you know, the answer to that. How many renditions, how many, 1.0 2.0 3.0 versions were there of the first phone, or of the first whatever you're working on. We do things in phases.
We do things in small steps, right? I always talk about those baby steps. We gotta to take those baby steps in order to make some progress in order to move forward. Well if we're stuck there, writing that first paragraph and making sure every I is dotted and every T is crossed, but we're not generating anything out of it.
We're not publishing it.
We're not sharing it.
We're not getting the message out there.
Guess what? No one knows. And meanwhile, you sit there in perfection, but perfectly doing nothing.
More than anything else, I'm speaking to myself here because I battle with this one quite a bit. I am an over the top perfectionist, because I want to make sure that what I share makes sense, looks good. Sounds good. Is spelled right. I look professional sound professional, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah. Right? It keeps on going. And then you get into this twisted tunnel of never producing anything because we're seeking perfection. And then guess what?
That's selfish because the person that needs to hear your message the most, or the person that's looking for, that product you've developed, or that service that you can provide, they're still hanging out there, desperately waiting for someone to solve it for them. And we are not solving that problem. We need to stop being ego-driven, that it's about us and about our image being just perfectly right and recognize that it's not about us.
It's about how we can serve others and what we can do about that. So I'm going to stop ranting about it, because like I said, that's probably more of a message to myself that I need to tune in on more frequently. But I can imagine that I'm not the only one that struggles with this because I've chatted with quite a few of you. And I know that I am not alone, that you are also faced with this challenge.
Next, when we take those risks, which I touched upon this already, but I want to dive into a little bit deeper. Every time that we take a risk, we are growing and we are learning along the way. Otherwise, guess what? It just gets boring and redundant, right? When we're just doing the same thing day in and day out. Now that's not saying that you don't have a routine and we don't have habits and good things that we implement in our day to day things.
Absolutely. I believe in all that, I've helped you with it in previous episodes. I am a believer in that stuff, but at the same times you got to spice things up. Sometimes we gotta find a new thing to inspire us and put that little ember of fire in us to say, Ooh, that thing looks really cool. And that's the thing that I've been wanting to work on. I'm going to go try it. And when we take that risk and we try that new iPhone, we try that new app, whatever that thing is for you. I'm just giving you some examples.
When we stretch out of our comfort zone, we get out of our little bubble here that we like to sit in and we go and find those things that make us see things a little bit differently. It inspires us in completely different ways and it generates a new energy. So I want you to remember that it's okay to try things, even as simple as trying a new food, if there's something that you haven't tried and you want to try it, go try it.
What experience can you get out of it?
What new thing will you get to enjoy?
Those are all beautiful things that we can take advantage of in our life. And I want to make sure that you're not losing out on that experience.
Then next thing that I want you to think about is that once you've already said, okay, I've made my decision. Here's what it is. And you start to move forward, but then you start to take about three steps backwards and you start to dwell on it….
Was that the right choice?
Well, maybe I should have waited.
Maybe I should have thought about it a little bit longer.
Oh, maybe I should have done this instead.
My friends, I know it's hard and I'm saying this because I struggle with it. Once you've made that choice. Own it. Claim it. Move forward. It's time. It's time to be bold to claim what we want and to just start taking action and moving forward. And guess what? It's not going to be a perfect path. What you need to do when this happens is you say, okay, I'm taking that first step.
Making that decision was step one. Step two is I'm going to do one small thing next. That's going to help me move forward in that direction. And then if some hurdle gets in your way, you say, okay, now how do I get past this? And we start to take little steps every single day, build a little bit of momentum. And what do I say? It always creates movement to go forward. So let's keep doing that. Let's not allow it to hold us back.
The last thing I want to leave you with is that sometimes when we are faced with really big decisions, we do need a little bit of insight. This is where I want you to get an outside perspective from someone who you trust and someone who has your best interest in mind. If we just go Willy nilly to any person, they're going to come at it from a completely different angle if they don't know your situation and your scenario. Maybe it's a spouse. Maybe it's a close friend. Maybe you have a mentor or a coach in your life that can help you. And that person can help you evaluate things from a different perspective and not just in our own head, right?
Because sometimes we just get stuck in our own head. We're battling our own ideas and our own frame of mind. And then we just don't go anywhere. And we're stuck in that non-decision for a long time. Sometimes it can be helpful, but don't let that be the only way that it pushes you forward. We need to learn how to trust ourselves, to trust our decisions. But if you're in one of those situations where it's a really huge decision that you're looking to make, then I definitely advise and suggest that you consider the idea of someone from the outside to help you work through that situation.
And I've shared with you before that I do help my coaching clients move through those difficult decisions and to find clarity and build those roadmaps. So if you are struggling and you're not sure where to go next, reach out to me, let's have a conversation and talk about how we can help you push through that process.
The quote for today's show that I want to leave you with is from Mia Hamm. And she says:
"I learned a long time ago that there is something worse than missing the goal and that's not pulling the trigger."
Well, my friends, when we are stuck in analysis paralysis, guess what? We are not pulling the trigger. We're just sitting there looking at the goal, wondering why we keep missing it or why we're not making any progress and why we're just stuck. We need to pull the trigger. So wherever you find yourself, wherever you realize that it's time to make a decision. It's time to move forward. It's time to do something that makes you feel a little uncomfortable.
Do it. Please take this moment to build up your courage, face your fear and go do it. Make that choice. Buy that thing you've been wanting. Go start looking into that career that you've wanted to pivot into. Start that business. Day one is TODAY. Whatever you have your heart and soul set on, it's time to start taking action towards it. You're not going to do it reflecting for months and days and years and for forever, because then you're not going to get anywhere.
Just as Mia Hamm says here, it's time to start pulling that trigger because you're never going to get to that goal if you're not moving forward. So we need to start taking those baby steps, honoring our decisions and moving forward. I hope that this episode has been inspiring to you, that it's helping you move forward. And I look forward to bringing you some more new information next week. I'm your host, Susie Q signing off.
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