Fear Of Judgement And Ridicule? Tips On Staying Strong!
Is your goal to be liked by EVERYBODY? If you are nodding yes, you have 2 choices:
1) skip this message because it’s not going to serve you
2) learn how to stay strong by embracing the reality that we are alway being judged
And the truth is that we are always judging others. Today, let’s focus on how we can stay strong.
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~ Prefer reading? Below is the full show transcript ~
Is your goal to be liked by everybody. If you're nodding your head. Yes. You have two choices. One skip this episode because it is not going to serve you or number two, learn how to stay strong by embracing the reality that we are always being judged. And the truth is that we are always judging others today. Let's focus on how we can stay strong.
All right. My beautiful ladies today's episode is a tough one. And I say that because a lot of times we might get a little bit panicked or nervous at the thought of being judged or disliked. Is anyone kind of gritting your teeth and feeling a little bit uncomfortable about that topic? I know that it can be hard and it can feel very uncomfortable to think about how other people might be judging or dislike us. And today I'm going to help you with figuring out how to embrace your truth and how to keep staying strong, despite your fear of being judged or ridiculed.
And please, pardon miss Wonka is hanging out. Of course, as you know, the noisy snoring cohost has arrived. She's hanging out with me and you may hear her chatting here, making some noises and apparently giving her 2 cents to today's review of the week comes from Shannon Baker and her five star review titled, So motivating! states:
"I love the simple strategies, Susie shares. I am learning to push through fear and I love the success I'm experiencing!"
Shannon, I'm so glad that the show has been helping you push through that fear, get out of your comfort zone and that you are seeing success. That brings me so much joy and happiness. And I have a huge smile on my face hearing that from you, because that's the goal of the show is to keep things simple, to help us build our confidence and to help us push past our comfort zones and embracing the things that we need to up level and grow. I am so glad that you shared your thoughts with me and I thank you for sharing them with all of us.
Now let's jump into our topic here. The first thing I want to help you understand is that no matter what happens, anyone who's judging us or giving some sort of opinion about us that moment in time is not going to last forever. Let's put it this way. As people, humans, we are very self centered and I'm just being very truthful here. And what happens is that we're more worried about ourselves than we are about anyone else. So even when you think that someone is judging you or dislikes, you guess what more than likely they may not number one, be paying attention or number two may not, may make some sort of judgment or opinion, but then like I was saying, it just doesn't last forever. So more often than not, it's not going to be deeply ingrained in their memory. And what does that mean? That it's something that's very short lived and something that we unnecessarily are stressing over. So my friends, we need to rip the bandaid off, let it go and recognize it's not going to last forever. If that does happen, then we just keep moving on.
The next thing is that we cannot avoid being judged. We are judging or being judged constantly. So why fight a battle that we just cannot win? Wouldn't it be more refueling to focus your energy on how to get stronger? So as you grow, you care less and less about judgment or the opinions of others. I mean, the reality is that it's going to happen anyways, right? Why not just focus on what we can control in our own perspective and our own sphere of influence and not stress and worry so much about other people.
Next, the truth is that it's not about you in reality. It's about them. Generally, whatever judgment others are casting has to do with their own concerns, self doubt, and their own lack of self confidence. That's reflecting back on them. Again, something you cannot control. This is where you can turn to being compassionate and understanding that perspective. That more often than not, they're just reflecting and projecting back an insecurity of their own. Have you ever heard that a person in pain usually inflicts pain that really is going to apply here for us. And I hope that you are starting to see how these things all can build up and generate momentum together. Here is the secret that you've been waiting for on how to feel liberated on being judged. Are you ready? It's simple. Stop caring. Let them judge. We can't control others. Their thoughts or their opinions.
You will feel a huge weight lifted off your shoulders. If you just release the need to please, Oh, that word to please, right? We always want to do right by everyone. We always want to fit in. We always want to follow the crowd. My friends, you know, I always talk about this. Here is how do we push outside of our own box of comfort and how do we get into an area of discomfort? That's going to help us grow. We need that. We thrive on it. So let's stop pleasing others. Let's be comfortable with thinking outside the box. And then just moving forward with that. The truth is that you're knowingly are going to be aware that they're judging and you just say or do as you please, anyway, it may take some practice yet once you're in the swing of it, you're going to be able to truly keep showing up for yourself as yourself.
No filters, no pretending, just your beautiful, authentic self and what could feel and be better than that to keep showing up day in and day out, regardless of what anyone else thinks or says the end result. In my opinion, if you choose to clam up and keep things to yourself, that fear has won. And now someone who needed and I mean desperately needed to hear your message is having to figure out how to move forward without your wisdom. I don't know about you, but to me, that seems pretty selfish to keep it to ourselves. If you're ever found yourself stuck in a not so great situation, you can probably remember a moment and what it felt like to get sound advice for all people who will judge. There are just as many who need your perspective. Stop, internalizing, stop worrying about everyone else. Stop holding yourself back. Keep showing up. As you are by you paving that path. You're giving someone else permission and power to step forward and their journey too.
And as you know, I love to wrap up the show with a quote and this one is from yours truly. This is something that I was going through one of my journals and I came across it and I just felt like these words needed to be shared. And that is:
"Like it or not. Everyone is going to judge, minus well get judged for doing something you actually enjoy and matters to you than pretending to go along for the sake of someone else's opinion. It's time to break out of the mold."
My friends, I hope that you're ready to bust down this comfort, this comfy little area we like to hang out in and you're ready to break out of the mold.
It's time to start stepping forward. Not letting this resistance, hold us back and keep pushing towards our goals. Keep moving in the direction that we are meant to go in. I know that it's not easy. Not once did I say it was simple. What I'm saying is that it's possible. It's possible for us to stop letting others dictate what direction we're going in to no longer allow them to influence our decisions to no longer allow them to determine what direction we should go in in our life. When they haven't been in our shoes for a day, we can't live based off of someone else's opinions because their opinions are not paying for your bills. And I've heard that saying before, and it's absolutely true. We cannot let other people dictate and determine what works and what doesn't work for us because they don't know our situation.
And if you have a hard time with this, if you struggle with this, then please know that you do not need to do this alone. It is possible to fight these insecurities, to push through the self doubt and to generate the confidence that's going to help push you forward. I know it may not feel like it right now, but I guarantee you, if you focus on how to do this in the way that works for you, it will happen for you. If you feel that you need support in that journey and in that process, please remember that I'm here for you. You don't have to struggle and go through this on your own. With my approach to helping you build a roadmap, to helping you build your confidence, to helping you break down your goals and identifying your values. We design a custom roadmap just for you because you have something special to bring to this world.
And I am a faithful believer that I can help you on that journey and that your message, your voice, the things that you have ready to gift to this world are extraordinarily important. And I don't want you to stop pushing forward on your dreams and your goals. I would be honored to help you on your journey and see that unfold for you. Because once we light that fire, I guarantee that you are going to be blazing a new trail. And that's what I look forward to. We can have a free strategy session just to brainstorm some ideas together. See if we would be a good fit and then we can work together. And I would be honored to have the opportunity to work with you. Again, hope that you have a beautiful week and a fantastic weekend. And I appreciate you being here. I'm your host, Susie Q and my crazy cohost Wonka snoring in the background signing off insert exit.
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